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Ten Life Lessons From The Past Ten Years

31/12/2019

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​Life is our greatest teacher. Learning from experience is the pathway of true maturity. As someone once said, 'Life will either make you bitter or better.' The outcome to that is dependent on the attitude you take; the habits you form and the choices you make. So here are 10 lessons I’ve been learning over the past decade....


  1. Choose your battles well - not every hill is worth dying on. You must determine what is important to you and why, it will enable you to choose what ground to stand on. 
  2. Lean into the faithfulness of God - it will hold you secure during insecure and uncertain times. 
  3. Be ruthless in your generosity - it will become an antidote to a stingy spirit; it will keep you from bitterness and help you avoid emotional ruin.
  4. Take a careful measure on your energy and spend it well - not every project should have your time, not every possibility should draw on your resources. 
  5. Understand the power of compounding. Little and often will change your life much better and much quicker than much and seldom. Learn how to change your life by incremental steps
  6. Learn to spot opportunity - sometimes it will only knock once and then moves on. Opportunity may be a latent gift that’s unearthed by the comment of another; it might be an investment or job opportunity. But it must be seized to become real. Avoid the dreamers.
  7. Cultivate an inner circle of honesty and accountability - it will keep you humble and help you avoid blind spots.
  8. Work hard to understand the rationale behind the opposing argument - it will enlighten your thinking, increase your perception - and at the same time stop you looking like a fool.
  9. Understand that forgiveness is the key to unlocking your own bitterness and resentment.
  10. Read and when you have read then read some more. Read widely, read regularly. Reading will unlock your imagination, empower your thinking and strengthen your argument. 

And what of the coming decade? Well ,more of that later - but for now, A Happy New Year everyone!



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Christmas! Stop, Look and Think

20/12/2019

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I have a love hate relationship with Christmas; perhaps you do too! I hate the pressure it creates, the expectation that puts people under undue stress. The presents, cards, wrapping - the food to purchase and people to please. For many people Christmas can be an anxious time of year. But I love it too. The generosity that’s evident in the Foodbank we run; the kindness of people giving both food and time. It captures what is the essence of Christmas - it might stress us out - but it can and does bring the best out of us too. 

Not only that but the ancient tradition of Christmas as captured through the carols gives life a perspective that’s desperately needed. Christmas is magical and mysterious - there is something beautiful to be captured in the generosity the season creates. And what about the sentiment of it all? Sentiment can be an overrated virtue, but at the same time it can anchor us in what’s important. I was reminded about this just yesterday. 

I was sitting with my dad listening to the KS2 choir at school. Noah was part of it and watching the performance I felt sentimental. Many of the songs carry such depth - and for me wonderful truth. They help to anchor the heart in a sense of history and heritage - I see them as more than simply tradition. There is truth in those carols - truth that resonates and calibrates the soul. The Carol Service was at the end of the school day - a day which had resulted in numerous encounters each reminding me of the importance to stop, look and think at Christmas time. 

I had the responsibility to officiate the funeral of an elderly lady first thing. She was 95 at her time of passing and had lived with mostly good health. Much to celebrate indeed. Before I made my way to the funeral, I met a young lady who I’d not seen since she was a child of about 11. She’d made her way through the world - not without her challenges but she looked well and had her young son with her. I’d known the family and was pleased to see her after almost two decades. 

When I arrived to take the service, and stood in the waiting room a lady along with her young daughter ran in. ‘Where is the funeral please, the cremation for babies?’ She was late, stressed, and disoriented - she was attending the service for the loss of her baby. She was so young and facing such loss. We helped her find the chapel, it was the least, the only thing we could do.

After the service I spoke to someone who appeared to hold a deep grudge. It was a strange moment. The bitterness was tangible - odd, at one level - sad at another. The passing of years doesn’t always bring healing. 

When it came to the committal, we all stepped carefully between the mud sodden turf to navigate our way to the grave. My responsibility to read the closing words on a life well lived. ‘Earth to earth, ashes to ashes, dust to dust; in sure and certain hope of the resurrection to eternal life.’ Such is the privilege of the Pastor’s role - to bring comfort and closure at the end of this earthly life. 

On returning for the wake I sat and chatted. The lady I spoke with had lost her son over a decade ago. It’s a pain that never dissipates - just one which over time you learn to carry better than at first. Life comes with no guarantees. Our pain makes us either bitter or better - we all have to choose. 

And so with the tie removed, mud still on my shoes from earlier, I sit with dad to listen to Noah sing. It’s as good as life gets. To sit in that moment and treasure it. They are the precious moments when memories are made. Life savoured for what it really is. ‘The hopes and fears of all the years are met in thee tonight.’ They sang. Better stop, look and think about that. The relentless unfolding of time continues and here we are at the closing of another year. Better stop, look and think about that. For God’s sake, one and all - please this Christmas, stop, look and think about that. Life is precious - each day a gift - use it wisely and invest it well. Happy Christmas everyone.

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    ​Stephen has been a Pastor for over 30 years - 20 of them serving the same Church in Robin Hoods own city of Nottingham

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